God has commanded us to encourage one another, sometimes we do just the opposite. Since we are human we discourage one another instead of encourage one another. We concentrate on people’s weakness and faults instead of their strengths. We criticize others instead of complimenting them on their good things. We tear them down instead of building them up.
Encouraging someone could help change their life. We label people unfairly and sometimes label them as a failure. We begin to treat them as failures, but we should encourage one another and when we do that, we can change their lives. We forget to look for the best in people, and not the worst. We all have weaknesses. no one is perfect and since we are all frail human beings, we could fight over each others criticism; however, if we look at people’s strengths and good character, we will enjoy each other and help build each other up. We can’t dwell on people’s weakness.
When someone does something good, simply tell them. If someone became a Believer, than encourage him or her in their faith. If someone near to you does something good give them a pat on the back. When children do something good, we often give them praise, so why not encourage others? It is so easy to get caught up in tearing others down, this mindset is worthless. There is nothing good going to come out of discouraging others, especially other Believers. So, if you are constantly tearing people down, it is time to stop and start building them up with kind words. When we do leave this physical earth, do you want to be remembered as an encourager, or someone who discouraged?
Think of ways to encourage one another to outbursts of love and good deeds.
And let us not neglect our meeting together, as some people do, but encourage and warn each other, especially not that the day of his coming back again is drawing near.
Your love has given me much joy and comfort, my brother, for your kindness has often refreshed the hearts of God’s people.
Love the Lord, your God with all your heart and with all our soul, and with all your mind and strength. Love your neighbor as yourself. There is no commandment greater than these.
It doesn’t say, love as long as you agree with them. It doesn’t say Love as long as you like them. It doesn’t say love when it is convenient. It simply says, love your neighbor. This is ALL of your neighbors including other Believers. We tend to act the worst around those we love. We hold fellow Believers to a different standard. We have a responsibility to hold each other accountable, but this must be done in love, not judgement. We have to remember to speak with love and life no matter how much we disagree with them. One thing I do know is that God id still on the throne and there is a purpose for it all, so it is in Him that I put my trust and my hope.
Jesus gave us five love directives:
Love Our Neighbors
Love Our Enemies
Love One Another
Encouragement is building up one another, helping prepare for another tomorrow. Encouragement could be holding each other responsible for regularly reading scripture or remembering daily prayer. Another, asking another Believer what God has been saying to them, or How can I pray for you?
It is one thing to have information, it is another thing to share it with someone else. Do not try to change their views by throwing scriptures at them. The word will be given to them in the right way, and at the right time.
1 Thessalonians 2:7
But we were gentle among you, like a mother caring for her little children.
Be a source of encouragement to people’s gentleness. Being gentle is many time not viewed when meeting other Believers. We often are harsh or abrupt in their interactions with other Believers and are often thought of as “hardball”, “Their way, or No way”. They believe that each believe is strictly on his own. They can not imagine becoming involved in other believers’ lives. It is true that a believer has his own volition and should make his/her own decision base on the Bible’s truth in his soul. It does NOT mean he needs no one else to him during his spiritual growth. The maturing believer is supposed to be encouraging to new believers and to have patience, gentleness, and other attributes of unconditional love towards them. Regardless of what you were before salvation and Biblical Truth. If you stick with the word and you grow spiritually, stay controlled by God and the Holy Spirit then you manifest the fruit of the Spirit, you can become one who possesses all of these wandering characters that the Apostle Paul had. If you have not outgrown being self-centered, or being a taker rather than a giver, you are never going to be an encouragement to anyone else.
Proverbs 15: 1-4
A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a hard word stirs up anger. The tongue of the wise commends knowledge, but the mouth of the fool gushes folly. The eyes of the Lord are everywhere, keeping watch on the wicked and the good.
The tongue that brings healing is a tree of life, but deceitful tongue crushes the spirit. Many Believers want to cram the Word of God down the throat of people they are dealing with. This is totally contrary to the Word of God. Believers can be as selfish and egocentric as any unbeliever. This is a real disaster among other believers today. One of the fruits of the Spirit is faithfulness. You must be faithful in administrating the Gospel under motivation because you are trustworthy. You should never do it for personal reasons. It is unfortunate that Believers are unfriendly, self-centered, and think they are above and bring on attitudes, that in itself can bring on bigger negative impressions than the doctrine that was being taught. Believers should make you happy and should produce contentment and tranquility, not bring other people down.
If you are a Believer, then just choose your words carefully. Your words speak so loud that you might come off wrong. You might actually be turning people away from God than doing much good. Stop and think before you speak, and make sure you coming off loving, because you might be loosing a lot of people who you never wanted to lose to begin with. If you want to be argumentative with someone, make sure you are choosing the right words, making sure you are not coming off as being bigger than you seem and if you think it will turn into something more, than just simply keep your mouth shut and walk away from it. If you read something and feel as though it is not of Truth, then skip over it, maybe one day the person who wrote it will see the Truth, don’t over throw them by hitting them over the head with the Bible. You will get no where by trying to be overpowering. You will never win anyone over to your beliefs if you bully them, or backing them in the corner. So, I urge you to watch your tongue, and show unconditional love for another.