Day 7 – Thick and Thin

One Month to Love!
This was an awesome book, check out my review and I wanted to share with y’all the “important” parts to me. This is by far not what the whole book is about, but just a glimpse of what I thought was catching, or needed to be shared. I will be going through each day, as this will be sorta like my “journal”.

There are 4 weeks involved:
Week 1: The Art of Being All There
Week 2: The Art of Acting Intentionally
Week 3: The Art of Risking Awkwardness
Week 4: The Art of Letting Go

Day 7 of Week 1: Thick and Thin

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It’s so easy to fall in love but hard to find someone who will catch you. ~Anonymous

There shall be such a oneness between you that when one weeps, the other shall taste salt. ~Ancient Proverb

Great relationships are built on weathering the storms of life together.
Lasting love says, “I’ll love you even when…” Even when you’re sick. Even when helping you is difficult for me. Even when your eyes dim and your skin sags. Even when you wrong me.
If something catastrophic were to happen in one of their, key relationships, lives, how would you respond? How far would you go to be there for them?

“The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no commandment greater than these.” Mark 12:31

True relationship is often defined by how you show up for friends and loved one in times of deep need and crisis.

Lasting Love Relationship Challenge
1) Can you recall a time when  you came to someones’ aid and found yourself blessed in an unexpected way? Write down some notes in your journal as you reflect on that experience.
2) Can you imagine yourself having a “Hosea Love” for anyone in your life? Who might that be?
3) Choose one of your key relationships, and try to anticipate a need they might have. If that arose, what would you be wiling to do in order to be there in the tough time they would be facing? Write that down in your journal.

In case you missed it:
Day 1 – The Most Important Thing
Day 2 – Face to Face
Day 3 – Zoning In
Day 4 – Being All There on a Deeper Level
Day 5 – Staying at the Table
Day 6 – Stuck With Me

Day 6 – Stuck With Me

One Month to Love!
This was an awesome book, check out my review and I wanted to share with y’all the “important” parts to me. This is by far not what the whole book is about, but just a glimpse of what I thought was catching, or needed to be shared. I will be going through each day, as this will be sorta like my “journal”.

There are 4 weeks involved:
Week 1: The Art of Being All There
Week 2: The Art of Acting Intentionally
Week 3: The Art of Risking Awkwardness
Week 4: The Art of Letting Go

Day 6 of Week 1: Stuck With Me

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The greatest happiness in life is the conviction that we are loved – loved for ourselves, or rather, loved in spite of ourselves. ~Victor Hugo

If you’re never scared or embarrassed or hurt, it means you never take any chances. ~Julia Sorel

Good feelings aren’t reliable enough to sustain any relationship.
Our commitment to each other is the scaffolding that our key relationships are built on. Romance, shared dreams, laughter, memories, and deep conversations are the plaster and paint we use to decorate our relationships, but without commitment everything else will disintegrate with the little earthquakes that come into every life.

When they said “Till death do us part,” there was integrity in their promise. They’re been held together by the strength of their commitment.
Love is more than a song, a dream, or a feeling.

In friendship, commitment means being there for someone even when it’s not convenient.
In family relationships, it’s being by someone’s side even after years of dealing with a disappointing father, or brother stuck in addiction.
In marriage, commitment means that divorce isn’t an option.
In parenting, commitment means that you won’t check out when your kids disappoint you; you’ll stay engaged in their lives.
In the end, you don’t hold your commitments, your commitments hold you.

Lasting Love Relationship Challenge
1) 1-5, how would you rate your commitment level in each of your key relationships?
2) What could you say or do to reinforce your commitment to the people who matter most to you so they’ll feel more secure with you?
3) How does your relationship with God affect the other relationships in your life?

In case you missed it:
Day 1 – The Most Important Thing
Day 2 – Face to Face
Day 3 – Zoning In
Day 4 – Being All There on a Deeper Level
Day 5 – Staying at the Table

Day 5 – Staying at the Table

One Month to Love!
This was an awesome book, check out my review and I wanted to share with y’all the “important” parts to me. This is by far not what the whole book is about, but just a glimpse of what I thought was catching, or needed to be shared. I will be going through each day, as this will be sorta like my “journal”.

There are 4 weeks involved:
Week 1: The Art of Being All There
Week 2: The Art of Acting Intentionally
Week 3: The Art of Risking Awkwardness
Week 4: The Art of Letting Go

Day 5 of Week 1: Staying at the Table

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True friends stab you in the front. ~Oscar Wilde

Avoid viewing conflict as a sign that there must be something wrong with the relationship. Instead, view conflict as an opportunity for growth. ~Will Mosier

The goal of communicating through conflict is to stay at the table, volleying back and forth and talking through the issue.

Remember, the goal is to improve your relationships, not kill it, and your opening words will reveal your motives.

Shared Feelings
It’s important to remember that you really can’t argue about a person’s feelings. Someone can argue against your ideas, or your beliefs or what you assert as fact; But no one can deny how you feel.

Real Listening

James 1:19 “Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry.”

To make progress in a conflict, we need to listen beneath the words.
If you’re willing to dig in and discover the hidden truth behind her feelings, she’ll realize that you really care about what’s going on in her world.

Reflecting Truth
Taking Turns

One common mistake we make in taking turns is that while the other person is talking, we’re busy composing our response. Too often we win the argument and lose the relationship.

Six Words

“I’m sorry. Will you forgive me?”

The greatest joy you can ever experience in a relationship is the deep connection that comes only by working through conflict at any cost. Staying at the table is never fun, and many times it’s painful. But it’s really not about fun, is it? It’s about love.

Lasting Love says that conflict is a sign that a relationship is real.

Lasting Love Relationship Challenge
1) When faced with conflict, do you get more emotional, or do you tend to withdraw? Think about how the people closest to you handle conflict. How do you address conflict with them?
2) Find a symbol to remind yourself to stay at the table, the next time you’re communicating through a difficult issue. You’ll find some suggestions at onemonthtolove.com
3) From one to ten (with ten being highest), rate yourself on how well you really listen to the people in your life.

In case you missed it:
Day 1 – The Most Important Thing
Day 2 – Face to Face
Day 3 – Zoning In
Day 4 – Being All There on a Deeper Level

Day 4 – Being All There on a Deeper Level

One Month to Love!
This was an awesome book, check out my review and I wanted to share with y’all the “important” parts to me. This is by far not what the whole book is about, but just a glimpse of what I thought was catching, or needed to be shared. I will be going through each day, as this will be sorta like my “journal”.

There are 4 weeks involved:
Week 1: The Art of Being All There
Week 2: The Art of Acting Intentionally
Week 3: The Art of Risking Awkwardness
Week 4: The Art of Letting Go

Day 4 of Week 1: Being All There on a Deeper Level

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I see her everyday, and always for the first time. ~Jean Racine

The question is not what you look at but what you see. ~Henry David

Maybe one or more of the three key relationships in your life have stagnated because you’ve been so obsessed with your own problems that you haven’t stopped long enough to see the pain in the other person’s eyes.

Understand that what each of us presents publicly tends to mask what’s going on deep down inside.

If you really want to be a good friend, a true husband or wife, or a loving brother or daughter, you’ll care enough to look and listen for what someone is wrestling with underneath.

“Cast the whole of your care [all your anxieties, all your worries, all your concerns, once and for all] on Him, for He cares for you affectionately and cares about you watchfully.” 1 Peter 5:7

Lasting Love Relationship Challenge
1) Spend some time alone thinking about the people you’ve been together recently. What was said? What wasn’t said that might suggest a deeper need?
2) What things have you kept hidden inside yourself? Is there a revelation about yourself you’re willing to share with someone you trust? Others will often open up if you do.
3) Take a second look at someone this week in your workplace, neighborhood, or school whom nobody (including you) really notices. How could you make that individual feel noticed and valuable?

In case you missed it:
Day 1 – The Most Important Thing
Day 2 – Face to Face
Day 3 – Zoning In

Day 3 – Zoning In

One Month to Love!
This was an awesome book, check out my review and I wanted to share with y’all the “important” parts to me. This is by far not what the whole book is about, but just a glimpse of what I thought was catching, or needed to be shared. I will be going through each day, as this will be sorta like my “journal”.

There are 4 weeks involved:
Week 1: The Art of Being All There
Week 2: The Art of Acting Intentionally
Week 3: The Art of Risking Awkwardness
Week 4: The Art of Letting Go

Day 3 of Week 1: Zoning In

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I love you for the smallest things, bluebells on my desk, a pat on the head when I make an awful speech, a cup of tea in the middle of a deadline panic, being the only one to tell me that the green skirt really does make me look like a sack of potatoes. And the big things; giving me the best things in your life, sharing my joys, being kind to me in all my failings and giving me courage. ~Helen Thomson

Only through focus can you do world-class things, no matter how capable you are. ~Bill Gates

It’s not just that they want you to acknowledge them, it’s that they need to know they’re important to you.

“Wherever you are, be all there”

First, a conscious effort to clear my mind of outside distractions.
Second, to step into the other person’s world, which simply means to focus on what the other person’s joy or need or hurt really is.

Being fully focused in your relationships isn’t efficient, but here’s the great news it’s stunningly effective!

Lasting Love Relationship Challenge
1) Who have you known who made you feel like they were all there for you? How did their life impact yours? How can you do the same for the important people in your life?
2) How can you refocus your vision to see others needs in spite of your own?
3) When you’re with them (one of the key people – in person), focus on them wholly, block out your own needs and worries, and consciously make them the most important person in your world. Afterward, write down your impressions of what happened as a result.

In case you missed it:
Day 1 – The Most Important Thing
Day 2 – Face to Face

Day 2 – Face to Face

One Month to Love!
This was an awesome book, check out my review and I wanted to share with y’all the “important” parts to me. This is by far not what the whole Day 1 is about, but just a glimpse of what I thought was catching, or needed to be shared. I will be going through each day, as this will be sorta like my “journal”.

There are 4 weeks involved:
Week 1: The Art of Being All There
Week 2: The Art of Acting Intentionally
Week 3: The Art of Risking Awkwardness
Week 4: The Art of Letting Go

Day 2 of Week 1: Face to Face

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To the world you may be just one person, but to one person you may be the world. ~Brandi Snyder

For finally, we are as we love. It is love that measures our stature. ~William Sloane Coffin

The greatest gift you can give other people is your presence in their life.

When you choose to be all there for someone, you give them your most valuable possession: your time.

Hebrews 13:5 “Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you”

God chooses to be all there for me no matter what I go through in life. God is never too busy. God is never preoccupied with something more important.

“You will keep him in perfect peace, Whose mind is stayed on You, Because he trusts in You.” Isaiah 26:3

Lasting love thinking says, “If I’m serious about making sure the people I love know how I feel about them, I need to take the initiative to get together with them.”

Lasting Love Relationship Challenge
1) Last time you were with each of them (key relationships)?
2) An experience you had where someone’s unexpected presence meant a lot to you. Write some notes reflecting on this in your journal.
3) Make a “being-there” connection with one of your key relationships this week. Are you willing to do whatever it takes to spend some time together? Write your plan in your journal, and be specific.

 

In case you missed it:
Day 1 – The Most Important Thing

Day 1 – The Most Important Thing

One Month to Love!
This was an awesome book, check out my review and I wanted to share with y’all the “important” parts to me. This is by far not what the whole Day 1 is about, but just a glimpse of what I thought was catching, or needed to be shared. I will be going through each day, as this will be sorta like my “journal”.

There are 4 weeks involved:
Week 1: The Art of Being All There
Week 2: The Art of Acting Intentionally
Week 3: The Art of Risking Awkwardness
Week 4: The Art of Letting Go

Day 1 of Week 1: The Most Important Thing

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Friendship is unnecessary, like philosophy, like art… It has no survival value; rather it is one of those things that give value to survival. ~C.S. Lewis

I don’t wish to be everything to everyone, but I would like to be something to someone. ~Javan

Key relationships, meaningful, essential people in your life, who are your three key people in your life.
Relationships aren’t machines. You can’t replace a broken part and be good to go.
Real love, whether romantic love, a close relationship, or a family relationship, happens long after first sight. Real love in relationships isn’t a magic ad; it’s a journey.

We have bought into the false idea that if we’re connected to huge numbers of people in cyberspace, we must be important and loved.
A real friend is someone who is with you – present in your life – someone who gives you their time, shares your hurt, and feels your ache.

With God all things are possible – Matthew 19;26

Three stages all relationships, whether a marriage, a family, or a friendship, go through: First Glance, Second Look and Lasting Love.

Lasting Love Relationship Challenge
1) Get a blank book – Journal (or website)
2) Write today’s date and list 3 Key Relationships you want to focus on
3) Commit one day a week to a Facebook Fast. Take this time to hand write a letter to a friend, or to meet a friend face to face for coffee. More ideas are at onemonthtolove.com
4) Think about inviting three/four friends to take the Lasting Love Relationship Challenge.

Chores

This week I have started a new way of cleaning. I wasn’t cleaning on the weekends when Hubby was home, because who would want to do that?

I knew I had to figure out a way that I wasn’t feeling overwhelmed. I would sit on the couch on Monday wondering where to start. I would try to bust out everything an hour before Hubby came home, because I knew then I had a time limit but then that became stressful.

While exploring Pinterest, I found a chore list, and Wow, it works! This is my first week starting it, so it has taken a lot longer than the 30 minutes, but I can see the light at the end of the tunnel hallway. I can feel it working! Even my Hubby says “Wow, I might keep you for today.” ~laughs~

Another thing, I don’t feel like an overpowering Mom anymore. I let Jade pull out all the toys she wants, when I begin cleaning I make her put up her toys where they belong. If she spills hr dry cereal in the floor, I assist her with the vacuum.

If you start this way of cleaning – Don’t think it will just start working over night. The first week just worry about marking the stuff off the list as you do them, don’t worry about the time. You will see how easy it is to maintain in the first few days.

Happy Cleaning

CAN, do without Chu!

Google Image 30 days of Truth is about bringing out the best in yourself. Also, to let people see the “real” you through what you write. For thirty days I will write about myself, I will dig deep and I hope you can start this journey with me. 30 days of Truth; Are you ready!?

Day 16: Something or Someone you can live without.
Something I can live without or someone…

My something’s…
Drama: who needs it? Drama definitely doesn’t make my life better, and it sure as heck doesn’t make my life easier.
Sofa Drinks: high in sugar, and can cause you to be sick or worse if you already are.
Body Odor: When we sweat, how come we can’t smell good from the get go? Who likes the smell of rotten sweat? Ha-ha!
A well: as long as we have city/county water. Due to yesterday being a bad day, lightning hitting a tree (which caused our power to go out, 6 hours later they fix it), our telephone line (which is our DSL line) got snatched off the pole by the boom truck (which was the truck who fixed our power), and our well took all day to prime.

Someone I could live without…
This has to be one of the hardest questions, to say the least. Yes, it might say one or the other, but I think it is more of challenge to answer both, which always try to go the next mile.

I think I would have to say our president, at this point. I don’t really know whose side to be on, but I do see why a lot of people don’t like our president, but then again I don’t know enough about politics.

So, someone else I could live without…
I truly don’t know anyone I could live without. I have already removed most of the people who no longer need to “live” with me, within me, or in my brain. If I think I can do without them, then I just simply “delete” them from my life anyway.

If you could name something and someone you can live without, what or who would it be?

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Man, Spiderman

Google Image 30 days of Truth is about bringing out the best in yourself. Also, to let people see the “real” you through what you write. For thirty days I will write about myself, I will dig deep and I hope you can start this journey with me. 30 days of Truth; Are you ready!?

Day 14 – A hero that has let you down. (letter)

Hero–noun, plural -roes; for 5 also -ros.
1.a man of distinguished courage or ability, admired for his brave deeds and noble qualities.
2.a person who, in the opinion of others, has heroic qualities or has performed a heroic act and is regarded as a model or ideal: He was a local hero when he saved the drowning child.
3.the principal male character in a story, play, film, etc.

Dear Spiderman,

I would like to say thanks for all your hard work, and teaching little kids all over the world to flip their wrist and spiderweb people. It has been fantastic to get sprayed with silly string on Halloween.
Also, now when I look up to my heroes, I expect all of them to hang upside on the side of the building and send me a little smooch, too bad you have let me down in this department, because well quite frankly you got my hopes up and just blew it for my expectations of other heroes.
I hate to say it Spiderman, but it seems I have to take you off my list of heroes and find someone else who is ~coughs~ better about being a hero.
Yeah, yeah, you save lives, you swing from buildings, your silly string is quite strong, and you make your body look totally fantastic. I am now cutting ties, maybe superman can help me out 😉 who knows, right?
So, thanks again for letting me down, now my hopes and dreams are just are just crumbling before me.
Toodles
~Jenna

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