I had a Second Life

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Second Life is an online virtual world developed by Linden Lab. It was launched on June 23, 2003. A number of free client programs, or Viewers, enable Second Life users, called Residents, to interact with each other through avatars. Residents can explore the world (known as the grid), meet other residents, socialize, participate in individual and group activities, and create and trade virtual property and services with one another. Second Life is intended for people aged 16 and over, and as of 2011 has about one million active users.
— By Wikipedia

My Second Life began in October 25, 2008.
Before my Second Life; I went 3 years with no friends, family, computer, or phone. I had a car, but really wasn’t able to drive it. I was bound at home with no real purpose but to clean house. I worked at a Dollar General that was about 30-45 minute drive from where we lived. Hubby would always complain about me working, but at that time it was a way for me to get out of the house. I helped him pay his bills (the bills he had before we got married) almost off, when he then renewed his loans to get Christmas money. I never felt so bad in my life. Working those months, 18 hours a week to be washed away with nothing to show for it. I never wanted worked again.
We lived an hour from anyone I knew. It was too much of a drive for friends and family to come see us. I felt lonely. I would get up around 3am to take Hubby to his ride to get to work, which was almost an hour drive there, then have to drive back. I would clean house and tend to the animals we had. Back then we didn’t have Jade. We did get married though.
Hubby finally got a job in the next state, which some of my family was. Now I was anywhere from 5 minutes to 30 minutes away from family. I was able to see family, but still have no car to drive. (The car I did have, Hubby had a wreck and totaled it from falling asleep at the wheel, because his body was not ready for night shift – he is very lucky to be alive. He hit a tree head on, even had to climb out the driver side window).
Also, during this time Hubby wasn’t normal. You never knew he would snap, get outraged, or be “okay”. I made him to go to the doctor. I told him he wasn’t normal and something was not right, haha! Anyway, we did figure out it was his thyroid. (Which he will always be on medication for). Now, don’t get me wrong, he is better than he was! It is like seeing dark to light, but anyway back on track.

I started the game in ’08. I needed something to keep me busy, at this time Jade was about 10 months old. With the game, I had something I could rely on. I had friends, I talked to people on mic (which felt like talking to someone in RL just not in person). I would work “in world”, I could buy clothes (virtual ones, but it still felt nice). For a year on the game I was called a “square“, so I proved I wasn’t. I wished I would have stayed a “square“, but you can’t change everything, you can just change what is going on now.
I built amazing friendships in-game, even one that I will be able to meet Irl very soon 🙂 She lives in Maryland, but I talk to her on the phone now instead of in-game.
I stopped playing my online game March of this year, don’t get me wrong I still log on to check messages, and to “catch up” with friends, but nothing like I use to. I would spend hours and hours on the game, and I knew I had to change if I was going to build any type of relationship with my daughter.Which also, I started to get back to loving myself, and that is where my weight loss journey began.
Do I miss it? Sometimes – I miss knowing all the Top Songs, and the laughs.
Would I do it again? Yeah, but I wouldn’t let it control my life, like I was.
Would I suggest anyone to have a SL? Of course, just watch your limits, and be who you are. Don’t let others talk you into something you wouldn’t do in RL.

  • – You can gain friendships, if you are home alone all the time.
  • – You can feel normal, and find yourself again when you feel like you no longer know who you are.
  • – But it can start to take over your life, so just know you need limits.

Would I suggest this for married couples? Depends on the person. Be a “square” and be proud! Don’t dive to deep with emotions or feelings.
KNOW YOUR LIMITS
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Just remember it is a game, just like Sims, or playing console games, just more interaction with real people on the other side.

I have seen this game almost break marriages.
I have seen this game build awesome friendships.
I have seen this game bring people closer together not just in SL but in RL too.
I have seen this game bring love together from 2 different parts of the world.
I have seen this game destroy “friendships” in-game.
You can make it what you want it, it is what you do that will make or break you.
Just know that eventually everything becomes “repetitive” once you learn most of the things, which takes about 2-3 years to see that haha! Don’t let it become an addiction.
All my words of wisdom 🙂
– Jenna

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Oh Yeah; My Jitterbug

Day 29: A song from your childhood
I had to pick this song. Jitterbug is my friend that I met through Secondlife. Jitterbug is her name in game. We now talk more in the real world, and she is coming to visit me soon 🙂 This is for you Jitterbug. I hope you enjoy it, too! This is a song from the year I was born, so it just fits.

Music Challenge – In case you missed some.
Day 28: A song that makes you feel guilty
Day 27: A song that you wish you could play
Day 26: A song that you can play on an instrument
Day 25: A song that makes you laugh
Day 24: A song that you want to play at your funeral
Day 23: A song that you want to play at your wedding
Day 22: A song that you listen to when you’re sad
Day 21: A song that you listen to when you’re happy
Day 20: A song that you listen to when you’re angry
Day 19: A song from your favorite album
Day 18: A song that you wish you heard on the radio
Day 17: A song that you hear often on the radio
Day 16: A song that you used to love but now hate
Day 15: A song that describes you
Day 14: A song that no one would expect you to love
Day 13: A song that is a guilty pleasure
Day 12: A song from a band you hate
Day 11: A song from your favorite band
Day 10: A song that makes you fall asleep
Day 09: A song that you can dance to
Day 08: A song that you know all the words to
Day 07: A song that reminds you of a certain event
Day 06: A song that reminds of you of somewhere
Day 05: A song that reminds you of someone
Day 04: A song that makes you sad
Day 03: A song that makes you happy
Day 02: Your least favorite song
Day 01: Your favorite song

Event

Day 07: A song that reminds you of a certain event

This song reminds me of the day Jitter/Lauren/Wifey called me and I sang this tune to her on the phone, with hubby in the drivers seat while we pulled up to McDs. One day we even got in wedding dresses on a virtual world and twirled around to this song. She has been a big part of my life, and is coming down in August to spend a whole weekend with me. I can’t wait 🙂 She is truly a one of kind best friend at heart (since I haven’t met her yet) but counting down the days till I will see her. She will never know how much she has helped me through some things, from my endless venting to her “story of her life”. Here is the song, I hope you enjoy it and its not There Goes My Baby.. its There Goes My Wifey ❤ I love ya Lauren! (and no weird-os were not gay!) We are just very “special” LOL!!

Here is our Christmas Pic this past yr in our secret world. Ahhh the memories Miss you Girly, but at least now I have you in my real life.

Music Challenge
Day 06: A song that reminds of you of somewhere
Day 05: A song that reminds you of someone
Day 04: A song that makes you sad

Day 03: A song that makes you happy
Day 02: Your least favorite song

Day 01: Your favorite song

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